I'm not the voice of the fatosphere or anything, but if you're making "lifestyle changes" that include "watching what you eat," or counting calories, or restricting what you eat in any form, or attempting weight loss in any fashion, you are dieting. Weight Watchers may call it something else, but can we please just call a spade a spade? A diet is a diet is a diet. And you know what? If you're dieting, I don't care. It's none of my business. But can you please take it elsewhere? The fat acceptance community is just not the place to discuss it.
There are a billion other places on the web where you can talk about dieting. For the people on fatshionista who were complaining that they didn't have a safe space where they can talk about dieting as fat people, head over to Sparkpeople: those are the friendliest, most open dieters around.
However. The rest of us need our own safe space, one that's free of diet talk. There's another blog on the fatosphere feed, Exceptionally Fat, who's essentially turned her blog into a diet blog. Obviously that's what's working for her at the moment, and I'm glad she has a forum to explore her journey through that, but it's incredibly triggering to be clicking on links in the RSS feed and coming across diet talk time and time again. It's an invasion of the one corner of the Internets where I don't have to feel guilty because I take up more space on the subway than the genetically blessed person beside me.
Peggynature made an incredibly insightful comment in a discussion on deeleigh's journal:
"I think many of us think, at some point or another think, "Gee, it would be nice not to be fat" but that's to be expected, as we are all still members of a fat-hating culture. It requires conscious effort to remain fat-accepting. The default position within our culture is to desire weight loss -- unless you keep constantly on top of that by fighting it, of course it's going to peek through at times. No one said being fat accepting would be easy.
At any rate, I have tons of ambivalent thoughts about my body, and I even have fairly frequent (though passing) desires to be thinner. Yet I've still managed to avoid doing any kind of dieting or weight-loss directed activity for eight solid years. I know there are other people much less conflicted about their bodies than me within fat acceptance, and I would assume they're managing to get along without secretly trying to lose weight, too.
The people who feel inconsistent between a genuine belief in fat acceptance and a genuine desire to lose weight are not being liars or hypocrites, and their existence does not nullify the right things about fat acceptance. They're simply a testament to how ingrained our bias against fat bodies is, and while they can gather information and strength and friendship from the fat acceptance movement, it's still entirely up to them to decide how they're going to apply it to their lives.
And it still means that, if they want to talk about weight loss, they need to do it on a weight loss forum -- even if they really believe in fat acceptance. Heck, maybe they can take fat acceptance over there for a change, rather than continually bringing dieting back here."
Edit: Thank you, attrice, for handling this in such a straightforward manner. I do actually define dieting as a lifestyle change with the intent to lose weight. We'll have to agree to disagree about the definition. My apologies for singling you out; I didn't know you'd asked to be removed.
Everyone else: I'm not blaming attrice for anything. Her blog is a great example of how people and opinions change. It's obvious that her journey is leading her somewhere else right now, and I hope she finds what she needs there.